{"product_id":"you-and-me-equals-we","title":"You and Me Equals We","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eShalom Bayis needs more than just giving in. \u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBeing \u003cem\u003emevater\u003c\/em\u003e is a beautiful ideal, one for which every Jew can and should strive. Marriage would be a non-stop battle if we insisted on always getting our way. Indeed, couples who can graciously and sincerely concede to the other’s needs possess a master key to harmony.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eHowever, \u003cem\u003evatranus\u003c\/em\u003e — or more accurately, a superficial simulation of this trait — can also mask and sometimes trigger deep and profound problems in a marriage.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eIs your go-to strategy of giving in producing negative or dangerous side-effects in your marriage? Ask yourself some questions:\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDo you feel controlled by your spouse?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAre there many things you refrain from saying to your spouse for fear of his\/her reaction?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDo you feel that you give and give and get very little in return?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWould your spouse be surprised to find out what you really feel and think?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAre you unable to enjoy life and feel good about yourself when your spouse is down on you?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAre you unable to enjoy life and feel good about yourself when your spouse is down on you\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eFor most couples, and virtually all couples that are unhappy, giving in simply does not cover every area of conflict.\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e Only an angel can constantly acquiesce without feeling defeated. \u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eFortunately, tools exist that can enable you to establish yourself as a separate individual whose hands are on the controls of your own emotional life. You can exist and thrive as a couple, even in a state of disagreement, even in a state of conflict, even when one of you is occasionally unhappy with the other. \u003cstrong\u003eYou and Me Equals We\u003c\/strong\u003e is about those tools and how to use them.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e\u003cspan style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"\u003e\u003cstrong\u003e To have a happy, healthy marriage, you don’t have to be an angel. 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For years he has helped many people with sage advice, and with Hashem’s help, he has been successful.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp style=\"text-align: right;\"\u003eRav Shmuel Kamenetsky, ROSH YESHIVA, TALMUDICAL YESHIVA OF PHILADELPHIA\u003c\/p\u003e\u003ch3\u003eProduct Details\u003c\/h3\u003e\u003ctable style=\"border-collapse:collapse;font-size:14px;\"\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003cth style=\"text-align:left;padding:4px 12px 4px 0;border-bottom:1px solid #eee;\"\u003ePublisher\u003c\/th\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"padding:4px 0;border-bottom:1px solid #eee;\"\u003eDistributed by Feldheim\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003cth style=\"text-align:left;padding:4px 12px 4px 0;border-bottom:1px solid #eee;\"\u003eISBN\u003c\/th\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"padding:4px 0;border-bottom:1px solid #eee;\"\u003e9781680257441\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003cth style=\"text-align:left;padding:4px 12px 4px 0;border-bottom:1px solid #eee;\"\u003ePages\u003c\/th\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"padding:4px 0;border-bottom:1px solid #eee;\"\u003e176\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003cth style=\"text-align:left;padding:4px 12px 4px 0;border-bottom:1px solid #eee;\"\u003eDimensions\u003c\/th\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"padding:4px 0;border-bottom:1px solid #eee;\"\u003e6 X 9\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003cth style=\"text-align:left;padding:4px 12px 4px 0;border-bottom:1px solid #eee;\"\u003eLanguage\u003c\/th\u003e\n\u003ctd style=\"padding:4px 0;border-bottom:1px solid #eee;\"\u003eEnglish\u003c\/td\u003e\n\u003c\/tr\u003e\n\u003c\/table\u003e","brand":"Feldheim","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":55501956546728,"sku":"7721","price":17.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0534\/9765\/9560\/files\/unnamed_ec6729db-8897-403d-98ba-1d7b23fccf10.jpg?v=1778178850","url":"https:\/\/judaicasquare.com\/products\/you-and-me-equals-we","provider":"Judaica Square","version":"1.0","type":"link"}